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NVCOD - 11 October 2005
National Veterans Coming Out Day
1,000,000 LGBT Veterans COME OUT for
the 65,000 service members who CAN'T
!

Meet the LGBT veterans who proudly served our nation, and who are now Out and Proud.
anonymous veterans are placed in order simply for ease of organization. We will be adding continually as more registries come in, and National Veterans Coming Out lists come in from AVER's 24 local chapters.

A. B. C. D. E. F. G. H. I. J. K. L. M. N. O. P. Q. R. S. T. U. V. W. X. Y. Z.

Out & Proud LGBT Veterans | Coming Out: 10=great / 1=bad
Ms. Lara Ballard - District of Columbia - Lesbian
USRA - May 30 1991-May 30 1999 - O3
self-identified in service: Yes
Out since: 1990
- Coming Out: 10
honors & citations:
2 Army Commendation Medals, Southwest Asia Service Medal with Battle Star, and various other awards and decorations

Bio: I arrived at my first unit, D/1-7 ADA, in March of 1992, shortly before Clinton started promising to lift the ban. It was a frequent topic of discussion during my entire Kuwait deployment in the fall of '92 (during which time Clinton was elected President), and the focal point for some extreme homophobia and hate speech directed at gays as well as at the President and Hillary Clinton.

My experience in the service is thoroughly covered in the book Secret Service: Untold Stories of Lesbians in the Military by Zsa Zsa Gershick,
and is also on the Documenting Courage Project webpage, so I won't bore
you with the details here. Suffice it to say, I was out to a handful of people during my Army years, but have made a point of coming out to many of my former Army colleagues as I've run across them in my post-Army years. Their responses have been uniformly positive and supportive. My former battalion commander said it didn't change his opinion of me one bit; he just didn't understand why I felt compelled to leave the Army because I was gay. His attitude was "Out of sight, out of mind, what was the problem?"

I think this points to an important educational challenge we have in front of us, which is that even some of our potentially closest allies don't understand why the policy is so harmful.

I would also like to add that, for me, coming out, especially to former
military colleagues, was one of the most psychologically helpful, healing things I have ever done. Coming out is the single most important reason I am now emotionally healthy enough to enjoy a loving, supportive, long-term relationship with my partner. I highly recommend it to everyone, but especially to GLBT veterans. We have a lot of healing to do.

Ms. Randi Allison Barnabee - Ohio - MTF
USCG - Aug 8 1978-Apr 4 1998 - O3
Military nick: Mr. B.
self-identified in service: Yes
Out since: Apr 1998 - Coming Out: 7
honors & citations:
Meritorious Service Medal, Coast Guard Achievement Medal, Army Aviator (Pilot) Wings, Coast Guard Commandant's Letter of Commendation

Bio: I began to realize that I was transsexual about the same time I entered law school for the Coast Guard. In one sense, knowing that about myself helped me begin putting many aspects of my life - past and (then) present - into better perspective. On the other hand, it was terrifying to suddenly realize that by virtue of my gender identity I was now an outsider - a gender outlaw - working for our country's most institutionally homophobic employer.

By the time I was finishing up with law school, I was certain that I was a MtF transsexual. In fact, I had been diagnosed as such by experts, but I took no active steps toward transitioning from male to female because I did not want to risk my military career. Ultimately, I contacted the Coast Guard's employee assistance program (EAP) and asked them to inquire anonymously as to what the Coast Guard's position would be if a highly trained officer were to transition on active duty. The Coast Guard's response was abysmal.

According to the Coast Guard the only way I could transition and avoid automatic administrative separation, without benefits, would be if I could leave work one day and come back the next fully (including surgically) transitioned. Furthermore, if I had ANY post-op complications whatsoever I would be separated - despite the fact that other females are not likewise subject to automatic separation from service for identical problems.

Up to the point that I began law school I had been something of a rising star in the Coast Guard. None of that seemed to matter, nor did it matter that as a Coast Guard attorney my gender had no bearing on my job or my assignability.

Around the same time the Coast Guard changed its military medical policies to match those of the DOD military branches and, as a result, I could no longer take the antidepressant medications I had been on for the past few years and still remain on active duty. I was medically discharged on April 4, 1998, for reasons unrelated to my gender identity, at which point I began my full-time transition from male to female.

I am proud of my military service. It is unfortunate that the military can still engage in sex stereotyping (the notion that men must act one way, women must act another way, and one must remain the sex they were assigned at birth) in its personnel decisions when there is no justification for it in the rest of our workforce. As a civil rights attorney representing the LGBT population, I hope to have a hand in ridding the military of this shameful and dishonorable practice.

Mr. Joseph M. Beagan - Illinois - Gay
USN - Jun 2 1966-Jun 1 1974 - E4
self-identified in service: Yes
Out since: Sep 1967 - Coming Out: 7
honors & citations:
(not listed)

Bio: I came out pre-service in New York City, but in the service I only was out off base. I made a number of very close friends while in the service and although it was somewhat repressive, I met a lot of gay guys in the Navy.

Surprise! Surprise! I basically enjoyed myself in the service and never regretted the experience. In a way, I miss the closeness of my gay friendships in the Navy.

Mr. Steve Brahm - Washington - Gay
USAF - Sep 1985-Feb 1999 - O3
self-identified in service: Yes
Out since: Jul 1997 - Coming Out: 8
honors & citations:
(not listed)

Bio: I attended the Air Force Academy. I have not maintained any friendships from there, nor any from the Air Force in general. I realized after I came out what a huge part of my life I was missing by not allowing myself to have true friends that knew and accepted ALL parts of my life.


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